With my middle child off to school this year (and totally rocking it by the way - but that's another post!), I suddenly realised I've somehow transitioned from a 'mum of little kids who has one at school', to a 'school mum who still has one kid at home'. Subtle difference but a big one (to me, anyway, lol)! I blinked, they grew up, and now here I am. Still getting used to this change...having two school age kids. For so long (soooooo long), I was a mum to little kids at home. But the baby and toddler phase has officially past. Eek?! If you are anywhere near this stage you know how bittersweet it is! So strange to realise those 'little years' have really past (we survived!!!) and we are entering a new phase, heading as a family towards those middle years, the school age years #whoa. In many ways I'm sad to say goodbye to those simple, precious (exhausting) and adorable baby days, but also excited about the fun and conversation and independence and adventures of school age kids. Ahhhhh, transitions!
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My three year old 'forever my baby', Miles, is still at home (the last one!!). I am so incredibly grateful I still get to be with home with him.... but it's funny how it feels so different?! Our family is more firmly in the school phase, no longer a newbie school mum with the novelty of a first school child. With my second starting, we all kinda feel like pros! He knew what to expect and so did I... so it was a much less emotional experience for all of us, really. School lunches, permission slips, home readers... yeah, we have found our groove with all these novelties!
And life at home with 'just one'? It feels like a whoooooole different ballgame.
These are simple, quiet, contented days. SO QUIET!! SO SIMPLE!! SO SWEET!! Ha. Just a far cry from the general level of mayhem and noise that was in the house with three kids full time. Sibling interactions - even when positive - are just generally so noisy!! And now it's sooo quiet, lol. But I am still getting used to it, frankly. I think when you have been so accustomed to being home full time juggling three little people along with running a household, having 'just one' feels practically child-free, haha!! So I have to admit we have been having a blast together. I love hanging out with my little sidekick, Miles, he truly is darling! And all of a sudden I have so much freedom to run errands, do volunteering, help with church things, hang with friends, get chores done, do the gardening, organise the house, etc . So doable now, especially with a super chilled and independent little man by my side. It's such a change?! Especially as Miles is now a big three year old, past the super busy toddler stage. He can play independently, obey instructions, understand where we are going and why. He is happy to go along with whatever is happening Oh, and the conversations are precious beyond words... I love this age! We have the best chats as we cruise around town and hang out at the house. And of course we love going to pick up the big kids after school, greeting them with hugs and begging for updates - it's always quite a reunion!
I'm just loving this sweet season. This time feels so precious and I know all the more now how much I need to cherish as it will not last. ❤
And life at home with 'just one'? It feels like a whoooooole different ballgame.
Hot Cross Buns on the deck together for morning tea. Happy times! Scraped nose, but he don't care! |
These are simple, quiet, contented days. SO QUIET!! SO SIMPLE!! SO SWEET!! Ha. Just a far cry from the general level of mayhem and noise that was in the house with three kids full time. Sibling interactions - even when positive - are just generally so noisy!! And now it's sooo quiet, lol. But I am still getting used to it, frankly. I think when you have been so accustomed to being home full time juggling three little people along with running a household, having 'just one' feels practically child-free, haha!! So I have to admit we have been having a blast together. I love hanging out with my little sidekick, Miles, he truly is darling! And all of a sudden I have so much freedom to run errands, do volunteering, help with church things, hang with friends, get chores done, do the gardening, organise the house, etc . So doable now, especially with a super chilled and independent little man by my side. It's such a change?! Especially as Miles is now a big three year old, past the super busy toddler stage. He can play independently, obey instructions, understand where we are going and why. He is happy to go along with whatever is happening Oh, and the conversations are precious beyond words... I love this age! We have the best chats as we cruise around town and hang out at the house. And of course we love going to pick up the big kids after school, greeting them with hugs and begging for updates - it's always quite a reunion!
Quietly, independently, happily playing Magnatiles while I bake. What is this?!?!?! |
I'm just loving this sweet season. This time feels so precious and I know all the more now how much I need to cherish as it will not last. ❤
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Side Note: If you have 'just one' total children right now, please know that when I had 'just one' myself it suuuuure didn't feel so simple and easy breezy!! Perspective (and I guess your ability to juggle and cope) just changes a fair bit after you ratchet up to three then down to one. But that first one? It felt challenging for sure! #restassured
Maybe unproductive in many senses, in many worldly values... often it appeared that nothing got accomplished in a whole day!! (Except keeping the kids alive.. my main goal!) BUT....The everyday, glorious and mundane task of raising little people - it's the most important job I ever had (and still have!). Maybe it was largely 'unproductive' in one sense, but it was still noble work. Ok, the floor often wasn't swept and I was often frazzled and tired to my bones but still...being home, being with them, during all those pre-school years, was unproductive in the best possible way. After all, I didn't quit my job to stay home and keep the house clean, or be productive in really any sort of measure except being there for them, raising them, instilling love and values and character in their hearts. Just giving them the priceless gift of time. Time with me, time to be nurtured in the home, time to grow up slowly and gently and quietly. We all know time is precious and it seemed my greatest productivity may have been seemingly 'wasting time' by investing in them, in giving time to them. Ok, ok, it's nice to get the chores down and the errands run, but I think we all know what has the greater value! The pay ain't great, but this work has an eternal value in my perspective, investing in little hearts and minds.
I will enjoy this 'in between' season, soaking up the last drops of SAHM life with my little dude, while also ticking things off my to-do list like A BOSS!!!!!
I've been joking to friends it's like I can now do all those SAHM things I always thought I would do but couldn't because, you know, all those kids in the way!!! Ha! So have to admit I have been really relishing these quiet and productive days! Pottering around, getting all those ever-undone chores off the list, helping out at school, getting shopping done, taking care of errands with my buddy by my side. It's been pretty sweet and I started to think about how productive I have been.... IT FELT GOOD! Then I realised -
Wait a minute! Was I suggesting that the previous seven years raising three little humans was unproductive?!
Oh, no, no, no. Not at all.
Oh, no, no, no. Not at all.
Maybe unproductive in many senses, in many worldly values... often it appeared that nothing got accomplished in a whole day!! (Except keeping the kids alive.. my main goal!) BUT....The everyday, glorious and mundane task of raising little people - it's the most important job I ever had (and still have!). Maybe it was largely 'unproductive' in one sense, but it was still noble work. Ok, the floor often wasn't swept and I was often frazzled and tired to my bones but still...being home, being with them, during all those pre-school years, was unproductive in the best possible way. After all, I didn't quit my job to stay home and keep the house clean, or be productive in really any sort of measure except being there for them, raising them, instilling love and values and character in their hearts. Just giving them the priceless gift of time. Time with me, time to be nurtured in the home, time to grow up slowly and gently and quietly. We all know time is precious and it seemed my greatest productivity may have been seemingly 'wasting time' by investing in them, in giving time to them. Ok, ok, it's nice to get the chores down and the errands run, but I think we all know what has the greater value! The pay ain't great, but this work has an eternal value in my perspective, investing in little hearts and minds.
Now school is calling for my baby boy.... just a year or two away (he is on the cusp of the school year, so not quite sure when he will start yet). School is beckoning my last little one, I know that time to that point will fly. Then the office will be calling me once more, and I know that will be yet another change for our family. Times, they are a changin'...
But for now?
I will enjoy this 'in between' season, soaking up the last drops of SAHM life with my little dude, while also ticking things off my to-do list like A BOSS!!!!!